Sometimes we need to get through a little of what may seem uncomfortable at first, to get through to the other side full of more peace and joy than you can imagine. If you get involved in your church, and reach out to others who may be feeling uncomfortable too (they’re out there, believe me), you may end up with a group of friends who you can’t imagine ever living life without again. Kent & I are so blessed to have many friends like this, who feel as close as family, because they are family, we’re all part of the “family of God”.
But you may have to make the first move, some people may be even more uncomfortable than you are. Or others may be longing for that deep friendship, but don’t know how to go about it. When we first started getting involved in our church years ago, we just invited some people over who we would see each week and say hi to, but never knew them beyond that. This was the beginning of many friendships. You’ve got to step out, though!
Even beyond the friendships…
Some of you may be less social and don’t feel the need to make a connection to others like I mention above, but still, making church a priority each week is important. Not only does it show God that He is a priority in your life (instead of sleeping in, even if it is your ‘only day to sleep in’), but that’s not all… Your faith life grows when you’re part of the bigger community of believers at church, you learn more or are challenged through the scripture readings or sermon/homily, and especially for Catholics, receiving Jesus in the Eucharist is essential! (More on that in another post.)
Have you been hurt by someone at church?
If you’ve been hurt by someone at church, remember, they are not God and they are not the Church. Everyone there is not like them. There are “bad apples” in every group of people. I’m so sorry that you were hurt, and I know that for some it was no small thing, but don’t let that person, a mere human being, keep you from the Church (or God) forever. That’s too much power to give someone who screwed up so badly. Practice forgiveness, and not for them, for yourself. Remember that forgiveness doesn’t mean what they did was OK by any means. It only means you no longer give them the power to let what they did negatively affect you anymore. Maybe someday you can even pray for them. But for now you can open your hands and let it go – let God take it. Let Him carry it. He can handle it and He wants to get that load off your shoulders.
Consider giving Church another try.
Please feel free to email me if you need someone to talk to about any of this: Kelly@KellytheKitchenKop.com